A woman identifying herself as Katie, using the handle @onerubyslipper, appeared in a recent TikTok video outlining her plans to intentionally annoy her late husband, Dave, even after his death. Katie, who has short, stylish gray hair, black-rimmed glasses, and visible arm tattoos, spoke directly to the camera from a room with a warm wooden wall decorated with whimsical items. On-screen text at the start of the video read, “Hi, I’m Katie.”
Katie held up a small, plain white cardboard box, which she identified as containing her late husband Dave’s ashes. On-screen text in the video labeled the box “HUSBAND.” Katie said in the video that Dave “went and died and left me in a big old mess,” adding that she “probably could forgive if it hadn’t been so f–king intentional.” The on-screen text during this statement emphasized, “F–KING INTENTIONAL.”
She explained in the video that Dave’s ashes had been “living in the back of my car since I picked him up from the funeral home 5 weeks ago now.” The video also showed on-screen text reading “FUNERAL HOME.” Katie then detailed her plans for the ashes, stating, “I’ve decided that I’m gonna hang on to these ashes for a while. They’re not going to live in the house? No, no, no, I’m building a doghouse for him.” On-screen text highlighted “LIVE IN THE HOUSE?” and then “DOG HOUSE.”
Woman seeks joy by taking late husband’s ashes on adventures he would have disliked
Katie said in the video that the doghouse “is gonna look like Snoopy’s doghouse, but it’s gonna say Dave, and he’s gonna live in that doghouse.” The video displayed on-screen text confirming, “DAVE.” She also mentioned that her friend Tanya has a “WOOD SHOP,” and they would “make him a doghouse to live in on the back porch.” On-screen text on the video read, “PORCH.”
Katie explained her broader motivation in the video, stating, “I get to do all kinds of things now in an effort to switch my mindset from being sad and angry and brokenhearted and betrayed and all of those words to finding joy.” The video showed on-screen text highlighting “MINDSET,” “ANGRY,” “BROKENHEARTED,” “BETRAYED,” and “JOY.” She said a source of joy would be to “take Dave to do things Dave would never do.”
Katie also discussed financial difficulties, claiming in the video that Dave “left me with two cars that have enormous loan sizes on them, and because he told me they were paid off when in fact they are not.” She added that the cars were “going back to the bank very soon,” leading her to need “a car of my own.” On-screen text highlighted “ENORMOUS LOAN SIZES,” “PAID OFF,” “BANK,” and “CAR OF MY OWN.”
She expressed excitement about choosing her own car, something she said she had “never in my life been able to choose a car for me.” On-screen text in the video read, “CHOOSE A CAR FOR ME.” Katie then asked, “Do you know what I’m gonna do just to p–s off this motherf–ker?” The video displayed on-screen text showing, “P–S OFF THIS MOTHERF–KER.”
Katie revealed her plan, stating she would “look at a Volkswagen Bug. It has a manual transmission.” On-screen text confirmed, “VOLKSWAGEN BUG” and “MANUAL TRANSMISSION.” She exclaimed, “I know! He’d be so pissed!” The video showed on-screen text saying, “I KNOW” and “SO PISSED.” She then confirmed, “I’m taking him with me. I am. He’s gonna sit in the seat, he’s gonna be buckled in, and I am taking his everlasting ethereal soul to a place that I know is gonna make him mad.”
The video featured on-screen text highlighting “TAKING HIM WITH ME,” “BUCKLED IN,” “ETHEREAL SOUL,” and “MAD.” Katie acknowledged her tone, saying, “That sounded very aggressive. I didn’t mean to be so aggressive, but I’m pretty mad, so maybe aggressive’s okay.” On-screen text read, “AGGRESSIVE.” She concluded by inviting viewers to follow along for updates, holding up the white box again and saying, “Say goodbye, Dave.”
The video’s public caption read, “When one door closes, you drag your dead spouse’s ashes around to everywhere that he would hate. Who wants to go to Cedar Point this weekend?” Viewers shared their reactions and similar stories in the comments section. Katie’s irreverent humor about her late husband isn’t the only example of dark comedy involving the dead on social media, such as an influencer joking about a dead body outside a restaurant in an anniversary video.
Some comments included: “Dave isn’t haunting you. You are haunting him. 🥰💜😂” “My husband died and left me in so much debt I knew nothing about sooooooo everytime I got a bill I would throw a bit of his ashes in the cat box …. 🤷🏻♀️🤷
